At the office of Safe Steps, Victoria’s dedicated 24/7 family violence response call centre, phone counsellors receive a call every three minutes. Many women are repeat callers- on average, they will go back to an abusive partner eight times before leaving for good. ‘You must get so frustrated when you think a woman’s ready to leave and then she decides to go back,’ I say. ‘No,’ replies one phone counsellor, pointedly. ‘I’m frustrated that even though he promised to stop, he chose to abuse her again.’
Women are abused or killed by their partners at astonishing rates- in Australia, almost 17 per cent of women over the age of fifteen – one in six – have been abused by an intimate partner.
In this confronting and deeply researched account, journalist Jess Hill uncovers the ways in which abusers exert control in the darkest – and most intimate – ways imaginable. She asks- What do we know about perpetrators? Why is it so hard to leave? What does successful intervention look like?
What emerges is not only a searing investigation of the violence so many women experience, but a dissection of how that violence can be enabled and reinforced by the judicial system we trust to protect us.
Combining exhaustive research with riveting storytelling, See What You Made Me Do dismantles the flawed logic of victim-blaming and challenges everything you thought you knew about domestic and family violence.
Format: Paperback
Pages: 320
Imprint: Black Inc AU
Publication date: 04/06/2019
See What You Made Me Do
by Jess Hill
Review by Alex P
Everyone says this about books, but in this case it’s genuinely true: everyone should read this book! It’s one of the most important books I’ve ever read. It approaches domestic violence from all fronts in a truly easy to understand way. From first person accounts of intimate partner violence, to laws and policies that make it impossible for someone to leave their abusive partner (let alone seek justice). It encompasses the influence colonisation and racism have on Aboriginal people and domestic violence, and how Aboriginal victims are likely to get arrested when reporting violence, rather than get the support they need. No stone is left unturned in this book, it teaches you about elements of domestic violence you would never even think of. It’s engaging, infuriating, and important for everyone to read
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