Book Review: Come As You Are

Come As You Are
By Emily Nagoski
Review by Claudia

A fantastic book first published in 2015 and since revised in 2021. Don’t let the emphasis on women’s sexuality in the blurb throw you off, this is an informative read for all genders (Nagoski’s expertise just happens to be the former). This book breaks up information-focused chapters with case studies, so you can understand how the concepts apply to real people and their relationships. Nagoski reminds us that we are normal, not broken, and harmful ideas have been allowed to take root in our mental gardens but we can exercise our agency to pull them out and have happier sex lives. Fundamental reading for anyone interested in the Dual Control Model of Sexual Response (or brakes and accelerators). Read it sooner rather than later!